As a psychotherapist, clients often ask me: “Why is it so hard to change?”
We know what we want, we know who we want to be, and yet, it’s so hard to stop being the way we are and become this new person with healthier beliefs and behaviors.
One major obstacle to change is all the negative stories about ourselves that we tend to repeat over and over again. These stories bring us pain and keep us stuck in the past:
“I’ll never find a good man.”
“I always screw things up.”
“My childhood was awful.”
“My last girlfriend messed me so much that I’ll never get over her.”