Tis’ the season to be jolly … except no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get jolly when all you see is complete chaos.

No matter how hard you try to get out of this gloomy weather and avoid the negativity, life seems to keep handing you more and more painful times. And especially during the holidays, more and more pain surrounds you.

Holiday music often sends the message that holiday seasons are happy times.

AUGUSTA, Ga. -- When an 18-year old Rutgers student jumped off the George Washington bridge after he was "outed" on facebook, it sent shockwaves across the country. Tyler Clementi became the face of gay bullying.

While we're not taking on the issues of homosexuality and genetic or environmental factors, we are looking at a situation that is what it is: kids growing up bullied, even hated, because of who they love.

When it rains, it pours.

Do you feel like you have lost yourself amidst the disasters in your life? Not only can you not find yourself, but you have lost your job, had a recent breakup, finances are in shambles, friendships rocky, and nothing seems to be in place.

NO matter how much you fight for getting things back on track, another part of your life seems to fall drastically apart. It can feel so hopeless and feel like you are running out of options.

One of the best tools we have for living a healthy life is our ability to think.

Our world is composed of a large number of events that happen constantly. Some are positive and some are negative, and most are neutral.

We interpret these events as they happen with a series of thoughts that flow continually through our minds. This process is called internal dialogue.