Up Front

Ladies, we love to bring the drama. It’s pretty much our favorite thing apart from quinoa, animals, and the Quin sisters.

On “The L Word,” Alice Pieszecki created The Chart to map out the microcosm that is the WeHo lesbian community. Everybody’s doin’ everybody, man!

Well, what happens when you have one (or two…) whiskeys too many and end up in bed with a friend? Suddenly all the questions you decided to disregard and not ask yourself the night before become completely unavoidable.

What does it mean for your friendship? Do you ignore the whole event entirely and just pretend it never happened? What if it does happen again? Yeesh, what then?

Well, I’m pulling a gay Carrie Bradshaw and using personal experience to write this. Coincidentally, this friend and I had joked about writing a comedy album together, one of the songs being titled “Friends Don’t F***.” I wish I was making that up. My life has become a sit-com.

While I know many people practice the whole “friends with benefits” thing, I’ve never really understood how people can do that. If you already care about the person as a friend, you're already emotionally invested in them. If you add sex into the mix, you're just making a veritable cat's cradle of strings all over the dang place. And when two identical movies are made about the same topic (i.e. “No Strings Attached” and “Friends With Benefits”) in the same year, I know we’ve got a problem on our hands, folks.

Gay or straight, young adults seems to be having a problem committing to their emotions lately. Are we becoming relationship scaredy-cats? There's a lot of "what if" questions afloat when friends get together.

Who knows? Perhaps the pair make it official and start dating. Will that drive an unspoken wedge between them and the other people in their group? Or what if it doesn't work out and you lose someone who was one of your best friends?

Or what of the outcome if they decide to just stay friends? There's bound to be those unsure, unrequited feelings for a long time. And maybe one of them gets ballsy and decides to make another move, then they're just back to square one!

But both of those are more negative outlooks. I like ending on the positive note. So, these two friends had a bit to drink, and their true feelings were finally allowed to surface. And while things are new, and startling (and oh, have I used the word 'confusing' enough yet? That too), maybe they both have an inkling of where this is leading. And it definitely leads to something good, honest, and true. That should not be lost or shied away from.

In case you were wondering, I am suddenly speaking in third person because I have no idea how my own situation is going to play out. When in doubt, use third person, kids. It feels so much safer.

Obviously, I have no answers for these questions. I’m just one girl doing the quarter-life shuffle through the bog of her twenties. And really, if you can’t look back on your relationship mishaps and one-offs and smile, what’s the point?

The Weekly To-Do

Beer and bike lovers, this is your weekend! Go have a day! Or two! Or three, even!

Tonight, 607 Productions gives back to a great organization. They’re throwing their annual “I Do” party at Rich’s Nightclub and 25% of the proceeds will go to the LGBT Youth Center.

San Diego Beer Week takes place November 4-13 with a plethora of events for any hops lover.
Kick-off Beer Week on Friday at La Bella Pizza in Chula Vista when they feature local brewers Ballast Point.

The main event for Beer Week, however, is Saturday’s San Diego Brewers Guild Festival. Set at Ingraham Park at Liberty Station, this festival will feature a ton of local breweries, and you get a commemorative taster glass with your $35 ticket!

If beer isn’t really your thing, then check out Broke But Stoked instead. Til-Two Club will be throwing this party showcasing art, rock n’ roll and the release of the Pizza Face zine!

If you’ve outgrown the 20s club scene, hit up Inferno San Diego’s monthly dance party at Brass Rail on Saturday from 6-10 pm. DJ dirtyKURTY will be on the tables for this event!

Do you have a bike that’s seen better days? Maybe someone new could love it and fix it up better than you ever could? If that’s the case, head over to Fall 2011 Bicycle Swap Meet.

There was a mix up with scheduling at Ruby Room last week, and The Nauticals will be playing on November 22nd. I’ll remind you when it gets closer, apologies for the mix up everyone! This Tuesday check out Ruby Tuesdays at Ruby Room, featuring Rob Deez, the LA-based Sign of the Times, and Jennie Buss.

The Venue Menu

Peruse this list at your leisure—These are the hottest lesbian nights around town.

Thursdays - Repent at Rich’s Nightclub.

Fridays – Soul Kiss at The Flame.

Saturdays – Femme Fatale at Numbers.

Sundays – Ladies Night at Bourbon Street.

All Day, Every Day – Check out the action at Gossip Grill.