‘Tis the season to be jolly … except no matter how hard you tried, you couldn’t seem to get cheerful. You made it through the holidays, but your depression hasn’t gone away. Better yet, you feel even more tired, lonely and hopeless.

Holiday music often sends this message that the season is full of happy times. But as a therapist, I see a different side of the holidays that the music doesn’t share. Holiday music doesn’t share how horribly painful it is for many people: It could be from relationships on the rocks to lonely nights, from deep sadness to money problems.

It takes just a few seconds, but changing your relationship status on Facebook says a lot and can have damaging effects.

Sure, when a break-up happens you’ll want to alter your profile to reflect your true status; but, if you change your status without first informing your significant other, or out of spite, it can create real problems.

Before you change your Facebook relationship status, ask yourself a few questions.

Have you officially ended the relationship in private? What are your motives? Do you already plan on changing it back within a few days?

This week's LGBT Sports profile shines a light on Jennine Estes, a daring young woman who takes her flying trapeze very seriously.

Estes grew up in Antioch, Calif., just an hour east of San Francisco.

When she came to San Diego for college 15 years ago, she loved it so much, she never left.

This active member of our community is busier than ever.

Estes runs a thriving counseling practice in Mission Valley, is happily taken, and recently moved to the Mission Hills area of San Diego, where she "loves every bit of it."

Several summers ago I went to a local ski resort (yes, in the summer) where I took my mountain bike up the ski lift to the top. It was a beautiful view with a bright clear sky, wind blowing on my face and nature surrounding me. It was breathtaking.

When I first stood there looking down the steep mountain, I was nervous about my novice biking skills, but I was up for a good challenge.